Thursday, July 21, 2016

FROM SCATHING ATHEIST CRITICAL THINKING DIATRIBE 7/21/17

(I'm doing this because I listened to the diatribe earlier this morning, and the ideas rang true, at least mostly... and I imagined how I'd express them myself.  But first, a transcription.)


NOAH LUGIONS' DIATRIBE:

About the time I went to college, everyone starting saying "no doubt."

I mean, people already said "no doubt" and its meaning hadn't changed, or anything, but

for whatever reason, the linguistic tides of style came in in the 90s, and the term "no doubt" floated to the top.

It just became the omni-present affirmation, and of course, soon after that, it was being sold back to us on stickers and shirts and albums, and all that shit.

And I only bring it up because when I look back on the generation that I came of age in, there could have been no better motto:  NO DOUBT.

Government's experimenting on dead aliens in New Mexico?  No doubt!

Medical industry has heightened (???) the cure for cancer so that they can keep raking in that sweet chemotherapy money?  No doubt!

Weed is only illegal because cannabis oil could easily replace our need for petroleum and EXXON won't allow it?  No doubt!

Now, that's not to say that we believed EVERYthing, of course.  But we just didn't have doubt.

There were plenty of things that we just outright rejected, like the religion of the churches, and everything the government said.

But we didn't DOUBT those things so much as, you know, knew they were wrong intuitively.

Now I don't mean to indict my entire generation here, because I know we weren't all as stupid as me, and the group of hippie rejects I surrounded myself with were by no means a representative sample of people growing up in the 90s,

But I do think that there was like an undercurrent of that same attitude throughout.  And I don't think it's a coincidence that the "No Doubt" generation came of age at the same time as the Internet.

I mean, you drop an unprecedented amount of unvetted information on a generation that has virtually no required education in critical thinking, and you wind up with a generation of irrational conspiracy nuts, picking and choosing whatever facts that best fit the narrative they prefer.

And in our defense, on the surface, modern physics is every bit as esoteric as the crazy shit that new-age woo merchants are peddling.  Right?

I mean, there are critical differences, sure.  But not such that they really stand out to a college sophomore with only a passing interest in science.

All I knew was that there were a couple of competing narratives that all seemed too insane to believe, so I picked the one that offered the highest probability of super-powers.

And all other things being equal, I'd say that was the right choice.

But alas, all other things were NOT equal.  And one of those competing narratives could launch robots into space, and the other one couldn't.

So, like a lot of us, but not enough of us, I reluctantly gave up on the super powers, and I gave up on the tarot, and the astral projection, and the karma, and the chacras.  And in their place, I substituted DOUBT.

Unfortunately, as we all know, not everybody made it out of the "No Doubt" prison.  An awful lot of folks are still staying in there, surrounded by bars of confirmation bias, and credulity, so taken with the architecture of their cell, that they never realized that the doors weren't locked.

And why would they? Right?  I mean, the grass on our side of the bars is all brown and mortal and impersonal.  And the grass on their side is all green and inviting and lives forever.  (That's cause it's astro-turf, of course.  But nobody told them, and they don't want to know bad enough to check).  

And I certainly don't need to tell you all the terrible consequences of all this.  We see stories of parents trying to cure their children with maple syrup and positive thinking, all the fucking time.  We see billions of dollars we've pissed down the old med rabbit holes, and at the same time that our real medical facilities are under-funded.

And look, the tools for solving these problems are really simple.  Critical thinking isn't some esoteric (applying or appealing to a very small group of people)  subject.  It's one of the easiest things to teach people.  I mean, sure, you throw a lot of folks when you start talking  bonus toleds (????) and shit.  But just teaching people to know what TRUE looks like is as easy as it is important.  And yet, as a matter of course, we don't do it.

Now I can't speak for any of the other countries, but in the USA, there are ZERO requirements in public education for epistemology.


 ("the theory of knowledge, especially with regard to its methods, validity, and scope.  Epistemology is the investigation into what distinguishes justified belief from opinion.")


Consider that for a second.  All the learning you will ever do will rely on your mastery of epistemology, and yet we virtually ignore that subject in school.  It would be like a basketball team that never actually uses a ball in practice.  They just watch videos and look at chalkboards, and then we send them out on the court hoping they can figure out dribbling and passing before half-time.

I mean, look, I'm not saying that a few classes on critical thinking would guarantee that all students come out of school immune to charlatans and bullshit.  You make all the kids learn math, and a ton of them still play the lottery.  But it would certainly help.

So why WON'T we do it?

Well, I bet you've already guessed my answer, haven't you?

This fucking country can't handle EVOLUTION.  What do you think American parents would do if we started teaching school kids how to distinguish reality from fiction?

I mean, think about it.  Think about evolution.  Now, that only disproves some aspects of some denominations of some religions, right?  The majority of the people in this country DO accept the facts of evolution.  But the opposition is loud enough to shout down all the reasonable people.

But teaching children critical thinking - that takes down ALL the religious claims, right?  Teaching children to think correctly would immunize all of the dumbest of them against religious indoctrination.

I mean, maybe they could still justify one of those liberal pseudo-faiths that tries to fit into the negative spaces of sound epistemology, one of those denominations that hid God in one of the six cracks science still left for him, or whatever.

But the vast majority of religious denominations in this country would whither and die if their congregants knew the difference between causation and correlation.

And obviously, these religious leaders know that, right.  And they couldn't recognize the threat that evolution poses withOUT knowing it.

And unless you've heard pastors preach about how (the book of) Timothy was a forgery, I think we can all agree that they're not above trying to restrict knowledge to defend their bullshit.

So we, as a society, have capitulated to ignorance.  The boundary on compulsory education is precisely an amount you would need to know to outwit God.

And if a baby has to die from syrup-ceuticals now and again to keep it that way, apparently that's a price that we're willing to pay.










SO TODAY, IT'S FADED DREAM, ANTS, and POVERTY

I'm writring more lately.... but not really knowing anything about where it's all going.  The writing, my life..... whatever.

I guess I have to move into extreme austerity mode, and try to refinance my house.

Don't know if I should use 401K money to pay down CC debt (about $40K), or maybe half of it.

DAMN.

Now what?

I guess I'll limp along until something changes.

Damn.

Wednesday, July 20, 2016

FADING DREAM

The one single dream I dared to dream, is fading fast away.

DAMMIT.

It's been THREE YEARS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

So what?  I'm a fool for not having moved on after 3-6 months.

But it was SUCH an appealing dream.

FADING DREAM

The one single dream I dared to dream, is fading fast away.

DAMMIT.

It's been THREE YEARS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

So what?  I'm a fool for not having moved on after 3-6 months.

But it was SUCH an appealing dream.

Tuesday, July 19, 2016

SAD UPDATE ON WAITING.....

Last night, I "pocket-dialed" David's number.  Unintentionally, iow.

So later he calls me saying "I just wanted to call you back & give you an update."  Well, ordinarily, this would have been a very welcome call.  Because even if there is no GOCH! news, it's so very nice when David initiates a call.  I sometimes say to myself, "I wish David would call, even if there's no significant news, and he just wants to talk" - perhaps knowing that it's been a whole week since we THOUGHT there would be "money news" from GOCH!, but still just wanting to talk & see how things are going.

But no.  He was "calling me back."

*sigh*

Oh well.  It's my fate, I guess.....

But DAMMITTOHELL, I didn't beg him for the opportunity to work with him as a non-profit funding representative..... NO.  HE came to ME!!!

And what he said was so wonderful.  I'd work on the "GIVING" side, no longer on the "selling" side of our community.

I'd be working with someone who loves me, not at all concerned if I'm gay.

I'd make enough to get rid of the financial difficulties I'm in right now.

I'd be able to help my family.

I'd be able to buy some goddammmmmm ELEPHANT TEE SHIRTS for my grand children.

AND, I'd be able to fund a position on THE LAVENDER EFFECT executive board.

DAMMIT TO HELL!!!!!!!!!

Why can't all this happen NOW?????

Why must I be caught with a shortage of these things, at age 66??????????  It's getting late.

I'm so mad..... But I can't tell David this.

And I can't tell Joe, or Bill, or anyone else I've hinted to that I have a "ship coming in."

I can't move forward in any other direction.

I can stay working with Joe Pruitt, for $20/hr..... continue the lie that he believes (that I'm financially well off), and possibly work with him as more than just an "assistant."  I could get majorly involved in visits and assessments, and doing much more of the work he's doing now.

But this is NOT what I want.  I want to do good through money, with David.

I want to relax & enjoy my retirement.

I want to travel.  To visit Eric, and Marie.  And Peggy.  And Pat.  And Dan.

Right now, I can't even pay my bills (without credit.)

I wish I had a life.

I have let myself dream that I'd have a wonderful life if the GOCH! money came in.  I've dreamed of how it would be.

But it's not happening.  After THREE YEARS, it still has not happened.

I'm so lost.  I don't know which way to turn.

Bye.

Monday, July 18, 2016

STILL WAITING.......

..... for a call from David.

I wonder how much longer it'll be before he says he's giving up on GOCH!


Saturday, July 16, 2016

KILLINGS

I'm so deeply troubled by the mass killings in our world.  I know it's not a "new" thing.  But since Sept. 11, 2001, I have been wounded in many ways by the senseless killings some have made against innocent (and guilty) human beings.

I have long valued the freedoms we enjoy (or used to enjoy) in the USA, and in much of the Western world.  It seems as if there is a "force" (i.e., Satanic, evil) that wants to destroy it.  And from my perspective, the justification put forth by the killers & their associates seems ill-conceived.

I agree with many who blame religion, in general.  The message seems to be "kill your enemy, kill the guilty."

I became aware lately of an online organization called King's Tower Productions who, with Mythicist Milwaukee, present a YouTube called "TOP 10 Killers in the Bible."  Narrated by Jozef Richards, it is one of his series called "Holy Shit," and it lists the Bible's most prolific killers.

To summarize (human beings killed):

1.  THE PHARAOH:  (estimated) 50,000  (Hebrew firstborn male babies, except for Moses)
2.  JEPHTHAH:  (estimated) 62,001  (Ephraimites, including one who could not say Shibboleth properly and was therefore murdered)
3.  ESTHER & MORDECAI:  75, 813  (the King, 10 sons of Haman, anyone who is even remotely against Jews, celebrated today by Jews as Purim, on the 14th & 15th days of the Jewish month Adar)
4.  GIDEON:  120,002 (Zebah and Zalmunna (who were murdered) and the Midianites, using trumpets)
5.  ANGEL OF THE LORD:  185,000 (Assyrians)
6.  MOSES:  (estimated) 269,002 (murdered slave in Pharaoh's court, a man who swore - had him stoned to death, 3,000 of his own people (after the Golden Calf incident), XXX,000 Amelekites (held up staff to win).  (not sure about who all were the remaining people killed.)
7.  JOSHUA:  322,036 (12,036 confirmed kills, 36 murders) (in Moses' army) (31 kings by sword, and all their subjects) - = approx. 1% of human population at the time.
8.  DAVID:  (estimated) 370,124 (152,661 confirmed kills, 207 murders) (Goliath, 200 Philistines (he kept their foreskins at the request of King Saul, whose daughter David wanted to marry), some of his own people, and more Philistines).
9.  ASA:  1,000,000 kills (Ethiopians) (worlds population at the time (est):  50,000,000; therefore, Asa killed 2% of the world's population).
10.  GOD:  (estimated)  24,994,828 (his people, other people, ALL life except Noah et al)

Total (Top 10 only):  27,448,806

It's no wonder people who believe in such trash, myth or not, feel justified in taking innocent lives in the name of their religion.

Sunday, July 3, 2016

CALEB KENNETH ASHTON, et al

Born June 27, 2016
8 lbs, 20"

Named after me!  (yay!)

Grandkids' birthdays:

Ada Marie Taylor           February 17, 2007
Ethan Joseph                  February 17, 2007

Lyla Ashton                    March 3, 2011

Elliot Graham Taylor      July 7, 2011

Elijah Paul Ashton          February 25, 2013

Oliver Duncan Taylor     August 12, 2013

Caleb Kenneth Ashton   June 27, 2016

CALEB KENNETH ASHTON, et al

Born June 27, 2016
8 lbs, 20"

Named after me!  (yay!)

Grandkids' birthdays:

Ada Marie Taylor           February 17, 2007
Ethan Joseph                  February 17, 2007

Lyla Ashton                    March 3, 2011

Elliot Graham Taylor      July 7, 2011

Elijah Paul Ashton          February 25, 2013

Oliver Duncan Taylor     August 12, 2013

Caleb Kenneth Ashton   June 27, 2016

BEING GAY & MORMON - THEN & NOW

BEING GAY & MORMON - THEN AND NOW

How is life for today's young gay Mormons different from what it was for me 50 years ago?
Today, the LDS Church is not the LDS Church I grew up in. And today’s gay-aware world is certainly not the myopic straight world I grew up in.
When I was young, we Mormons did everything possible to differentiate ourselves from any other Christians.  After all, Mormonism taught (and still teaches) that Catholic and Protestant Churches are apostate!  But today, the LDS Church desperately wants to be thought of as a branch of the very Christianity they used to condescendingly disregard.  It's no wonder that so many of us from those earlier days who have since left Mormonism, have ended up without any specific religion, or even atheists.
When I was a young man grappling with homosexuality, there was no such thing as an "out gay Mormon."  "Gay" wasn’t a noun (except for girls who happened to be named Gay). It was only considered an endurable, sinful adjective.  Amazingly, there exists today a small but vocal segment of  Mormon gays and their Mormon allies who accept homosexuality as unchangeable.  And yet they somehow find the capacity to struggle and contort themselves to stay in the Church!  I simply cannot fathom performing the required mental and emotional gymnastics to accomplish that, but it is undeniably a thing now.
As active, believing Mormons, both my Mom and my ex-wife took on leadership roles without any real freedom or power to manage objectives and staffing.  They were merely operation coordinators.  Programs and processes were directives from the Priesthood males in power above them, and local decisions required male approval, thus effectively rendering their own decisions mute.  I haven’t heard of any substantive changes in this regard, but at least now women can offer prayers in General Conference.
As a teen, I never (knowingly) saw a homosexual portrayed on TV or in the movies.  Homosexuality was never discussed in my parents' home, or at church.  I knew the words "homo" and "queer" from school friends, but I had no clear understanding of what they really meant until I was much older.  In my 20s, I watched with great interest the 70s sitcom "Soap." It had a gay character who was openly referred to as "gay."  I so appreciated seeing the show, and I watched it religiously, but secretly -  from the safety of my "gay closet." 
These words gave me a name for how I felt.  But I STILL felt very bad.  The words felt very foreign to me, and I couldn't imagine that they really applied to me.  I felt ashamed to think they described me.  And I thought that if I ever referred to myself as "homo" or "gay," it might somehow serve to make me even more "that way" than I already was.  So I tried very hard not to even think of the words.  
And most important of all, I naively thought that my safety and my "cure" lay within the Church.
They didn’t.
Today, a young preteen gay boy or girl of any religion has  a rich supply of resources:   gay-themed mediagay Mormon blogsgay ex-Mormon blogs, Youtube videos, and just plain gays in the media, who are out and proud, not addicted to drugs and not living in a van down by the river!
And specifically for young gay Mormons, there are the Mama Dragons.
These women are everything I dreamed my mother might have been.  My Mom died shortly after I came out as gay.  But if I'd had any idea there were LDS women like Mama Dragons out there when I was a teen,  I think I would have felt safe enough to come out of the closet earlier.  It would have prevented a TON of pain that later took a terrible toll on the people I loved most:  my ex-wife and kids.  If you are a gay Mormon youth, or the parent of one, please, please talk to a Mama Dragon .  You can e-mail them at: mamadragonstoryproject@gmail.com.  They are loving Mormon mothers who are also FIERCELY protective of their gay kids. They are people with a moral compass that elevates everyone they interact with.  This is what real love is.
There was a movement a few years ago called “It Gets Better.”   I’m here to testify that it IS better.  It’s better today, even while religious leaders still cling tight to Stone Age opinions.  The world, our American society and some in the LDS fringe community are better today than they were 50, 40..... even 10 years ago.  And it will continue to get even better.
You CAN do this, inside or outside of Mormonism.

WRITING, RE-WRITING, EDITING, FINE TUNING

Here's what my good friend Dennis wrote yesterday (UNEDITED):

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Ch-ch-ch-ch-ch-ch-Changes


How is life different for today’s young gay Mormons than it was for me 40 years ago?
Today’s LDS Church is not the LDS Church I grew up in. Today’s gay-aware world is certainly not the myopic straight world I grew up in.
In my growing up years, a Mormon did everything possible to distinguish himself from any other form of Christian. After all, Catholic and Protestant Churches were all apostate! Today, the church desperately wants to be thought of as a branch of the very Christianity they used to condescendingly disregard. It’s no wonder that those of us from those days who have left it end up atheists or at least unaffiliated without any specific religion.
As a young man grappling with homosexuality there was no such thing as an out gay Mormon. Gay wasn’t a noun. It was only considered an endurable, sinful verb. Today, there is a small but vocal segment of Mormon allies and even gay Mormons who accept homosexuality as an unchangeable state and yet find the capacity to struggle and contort themselves to stay LDS. I still can’t fathom operating the required mental and emotional gymnastics to accomplish that, but it is undeniably a thing now.
In the past, my LDS Mom and wife took on leadership roles without any real freedom or power to manage objectives and staffing. They were merely operation coordinators. Programs and processes were directives from the males above and local decisions required male approval thus effectively rendering their own decisions mute. I haven’t heard of any substantive changes in this regard but
As a teen, I’d never seen a homosexual portrayed on TV or in the movies. I’d heard that the 70’s sitcom Soap had a gay character, but we weren’t allowed to watch that show. Homosexuality was never discussed in my home or in church. In fact, I didn’t even know what the words “gay” or “homosexual” actually referred to until I was in the 5th or 6th grade. When I did learn what it meant, I suddenly had a name for how I felt and it still felt very “bad”, very foreign and very unfathomable. I just shamefully sensed that I was all that, and that my safety and the cure lied in the church.
It didn’t.
Today, a young preteen gay boy or girl has  a rich source of gay themed mediagay Mormon blogsgay ex-Mormon blogs or videos, and just plain gays in the media out and proud, not addicted to drugs and not living in a van down by the river!
Then there’s Mama Dragons.
These women are everything I dreamed my mother would have been. My own mother died before I came out. But had I any idea there were LDS women like Mama Dragons out there when I was a teen,  I think I would have felt safe enough to come out earlier and thus prevent a whole slew of pain that later revealed itself on loved ones such as my ex-wife and kids. If you are one of our gay youth or the parent of one, talk to a Mama Dragon (You can e-mail them here: mamadragonstoryproject@gmail.com). I’ve met a couple of them in person and even as a 50 year old man, my soul is refreshed and I feel love from those women. These are people with a moral compass that elevates everyone they interact with. This is what love is.
There was a movement a few years ago called, “It Gets Better”. I’m here to testify that is IS better. It’s better today even while religious leaders still cling tight to archaic bronze age opinions. The world, American society and some in the LDS  fringe community are better today than they were 40 years ago..
You CAN do this, in or out of Mormonism.
See Also:
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Here're my EDITING EFFORTS:
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Ch-ch-ch-ch-ch-ch-Changes


How is life different for today’s young gay Mormons than from what it was for me 40 years ago?
BETTER:  How is life for today's young gay Mormons different from what it was for me 40 years ago? ADD: (Mormon = LDS = Latter-day Saint)
Today’s LDS Church is not the LDS Church I grew up in. Today’s gay-aware world is certainly not the myopic straight world I grew up in.
In my growing up years, When I was young, a Mormon did everything possible to distinguish himself/herself from any other form of Christian.  After all, Mormonism teaches that Catholic and Protestant Churches were are all apostate!  But today, the LDS Church church desperately wants to be thought of as a branch of the very Christianity they used to condescendingly disregard.  It’s no wonder that those so many of us from those days who have left it Mormonism have ended end up as atheists, or at least unaffiliated without any specific religion.
BETTER:  It's no wonder that so many of us from those earlier days who have left Mormonism have ended up without any specific religion, or even atheists.
As When I was a young man grappling with homosexuality, there was no such thing as an "out gay Mormon."  "Gay" wasn’t a noun. It was only considered an endurable, sinful verb adjective.  Amazingly, there exists today Today, there is a small but vocal segment of  Mormon gays and Mormon allies and even gay Mormons who accept homosexuality as an unchangeable.  And state and yet they somehow find the capacity to struggle and contort themselves to stay LDS in the Church!  I still can’t simply cannot fathom operating performing the required mental and emotional gymnastics to accomplish that, but it is undeniably a thing now.
In the past, my LDS Mom and wife As active, believing Mormons, both my Mom and my ex-wife took on leadership roles without any real freedom or power to manage objectives and staffing.  They were merely operation coordinators.  Programs and processes were directives from the males above them, and local decisions required male approval, thus effectively rendering their own decisions mute.  I haven’t heard of any substantive changes in this regard but       (UNFINISHED SENTENCE  - PERHAPS "... at least now women can offer prayers in General Conference."   )
As a teen, I’d never seen a homosexual portrayed on TV or in the movies.  I’d heard that the 70’s sitcom Soap had a gay character, but we weren’t allowed to watch that show.  Homosexuality was never discussed in my home or in church.  In fact, I didn’t even know what the words “gay” or “homosexual” actually referred to until I was in the 5th or 6th grade. When I did learn what it they meant, I suddenly had a name for how I felt and it still felt very “bad”, very foreign and very unfathomable. I just shamefully sensed that I was all that, and that my safety and the cure lied in the church.
BETTER:  When I did learn what they meant, I suddenly had a name for how I felt.  And I STILL felt very bad.  These words felt very foreign to me, and I couldn't imagine that they really applied to me.  I felt ashamed to think they described me.  And most important of all, I naively thought that my safety and the cure lay within the Church.
It They didn’t.
Today, a young preteen gay boy or girl of any religion has  a rich source of gay themed mediagay Mormon blogsgay ex-Mormon blogs, or Youtube videos, and just plain gays in the media, out and proud, not addicted to drugs and not living in a van down by the river!
Then there’s there are the Mama Dragons.
These women are everything I dreamed my mother would have been.  My own mother Mom died before I came out as gay.  But had I any idea there were LDS women like Mama Dragons out there when I was a teen,  I think I would have felt safe enough to come out earlier, and thus prevent a whole slew of pain that later revealed itself on loved ones such as my ex-wife and kids.  If you are one of our gay youth, or the parent of one, please, please talk to a Mama Dragon  (You can e-mail them here: mamadragonstoryproject@gmail.com).  I’ve met a couple of them in person and even as a 50 year old man, my soul is refreshed and I feel love from those these women. These They are people with a moral compass that elevates everyone they interact with.  This is what real love is.
There was a movement a few years ago called, “It Gets Better.”   I’m here to testify that is IS better.  It’s better today, even while religious leaders still cling tight to archaic bronze age Stone Age opinions.  The world, American society and some in the LDS  fringe community are better today than they were 40 years ago..
You CAN do this, in or out of Mormonism.
See Also:

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And here's my "final version" as I would want it written:
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BEING GAY & MORMON - THEN AND NOW

How is life for today's young gay Mormons different from what it was for me 50 years ago?
Today, the LDS Church is not the LDS Church I grew up in. And today’s gay-aware world is certainly not the myopic straight world I grew up in.
When I was young, we Mormons did everything possible to distinguish ourselves from any other Christian.  After all, Mormonism taught (and still teaches) that Catholic and Protestant Churches are apostate!  But today, the LDS Church desperately wants to be thought of as a branch of the very Christianity they used to condescendingly disregard.  It's no wonder that so many of us from those earlier days who have left Mormonism have ended up without any specific religion, or even atheists.
When I was a young man grappling with homosexuality, there was no such thing as an "out gay Mormon."  "Gay" wasn’t a noun. It was only considered an endurable, sinful adjective.  Amazingly, there exists today a small but vocal segment of  Mormon gays and Mormon allies who accept homosexuality as unchangeable.  And yet they somehow find the capacity to struggle and contort themselves to stay in the Church!  I simply cannot fathom performing the required mental and emotional gymnastics to accomplish that, but it is undeniably a thing now.
As active, believing Mormons, both my Mom and my ex-wife took on leadership roles without any real freedom or power to manage objectives and staffing.  They were merely operation coordinators.  Programs and processes were directives from the Priesthood males in power above them, and local decisions required male approval, thus effectively rendering their own decisions mute.  I haven’t heard of any substantive changes in this regard but  at least now women can offer prayers in General Conference.
As a teen, I never (knowingly) saw a homosexual portrayed on TV or in the movies.  Homosexuality was never discussed in my parents' home, or at church.  I knew the words "homo" and "queer" from school friends, but I had no clear understanding of what they really meant until I was much older.  In my 20s, I watched with great interest the 70s sitcom "Soap." It had a gay character, and he was openly referred to as "gay."  I so appreciated seeing the show, and I watched it religiously.  But always from the safety of my "gay closet." 
These words gave me a name for how I felt.  But I STILL felt very bad.  The words felt very foreign to me, and I couldn't imagine that they really applied to me.  I felt ashamed to think they described me.  And I thought that if I ever referred to myself as "homo" or "gay," it might somehow serve to make me even more "that way" than I already was.  So I tried very hard not to even think of the words.  
And most important of all, I naively thought that my safety and my "cure" lay within the Church.
They didn’t.
Today, a young preteen gay boy or girl of any religion has  a rich source of gay-themed mediagay Mormon blogsgay ex-Mormon blogs, or Youtube videos, and just plain gays in the media, who are out and proud, not addicted to drugs and not living in a van down by the river!
Then there are the Mama Dragons.
These women are everything I dreamed my mother might have been.  My Mom died shortly after I came out as gay.  But had I any idea there were LDS women like Mama Dragons out there when I was a teen,  I think I would have felt safe enough to come out earlier.  It would have prevented a TON of pain that later took its toll on the people I loved most:  my ex-wife and kids.  If you are a gay Mormon youth, or the parent of one, please, please talk to a Mama Dragon .  You can e-mail them at: mamadragonstoryproject@gmail.com. They are loving Mormon mothers who are also FIERCELY protective of their gay kids. They are people with a moral compass that elevates everyone they interact with.  This is what real love is.
There was a movement a few years ago called “It Gets Better.”   I’m here to testify that it IS better.  It’s better today, even while religious leaders still cling tight to Stone Age opinions.  The world, our American society and some in the LDS  fringe community are better today than they were 50, 40..... even 10 years ago..
You CAN do this, inside or outside of Mormonism.

TODAY'S not THE DAY

July 3, 2016

I had anticipated that the "IDES OF JUNE" would bring:
1.  A new job in California for Joe & family.
2.  A call from David regarding the money FINALLY being transfered.
3.  The birth of our new baby (Lisa's & Rodney's).

ALL THREE DID NOT HAPPEN!

1.  Joe was turned down for the job in California.
2.  There has been NO CALL (yet) from David.
3.  The baby was born - a week late.

Well, that's life.